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《人,应该接受应该,也应该有自己的应该》

《人,应该接受应该,也应该有自己的应该》如果你还有三天要高考,你现在就不应该看到这篇文章。

说句有些惭愧的话,三年三月前当过几天老师。今天有个学生找我聊天,我给了她一把也给了她一颗

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若夫小人之儒,惟务雕虫,专工翰墨,青春作赋,皓首穷经;笔下虽有千言,胸中实无一策。且如扬雄以文章名世,而屈身事莽,不免投阁而死,此所谓小人之儒也;虽日赋万言,亦何取哉!”

我简单说一下,我是没有经历过高考,也没上过高中,我是小人。

在我个人的小人之见里,人生下来,除了责任甚至叫使命,在现代的社会思想中还应受教育,但是人自生而应有主见,应有选择。

先来谈一下“责任”,“责”是应该做的事,“任”是分配给的人(群)。责任对团体,责任对个人。我想这个应该没什么争议。

借用我恩师的一句话谈论“教育”,“教”是学科性的知识传授,“育”是心智的培养和历练,还有教育除了熟知的之外。还应该有“生命教育”“家庭教育”“应该教育”。

人,应该接受应该,也应该有自己的应该。

主见不是谁都有的,选择不是谁都可以有的。

记得约是六七年前忘记在何处看到一句话,“人一生有两条路,一条是必须要走的,一条是想要走的,你只有把必须要走的路走的漂亮,才能去选择走你想走的路”。叛逆期的我当时把这句话奉之经典,后来的我质疑了,现在的我不认同也不反驳了。因为那是他说的,我在自身主见培养的自认足够时,我可以选择听与不听,照做与不照做,传播与不传播,总结与不总结,评价与不评价,感恩于不感恩。

我也不想误人子弟告诉别人都和我一样不上学吧,不上学照样可以读书,照样可以工作,照样可以生活的好好的。

1.有人反驳过,你不上学,你生活的没上学的好。(姑且认为是物质需求与社会地位)

我说:没有什么事是一定的。退一步说我选择,我快乐。

如果想接着反驳我怎么可以为了快乐做选择,或者说上学也有上学的快乐,那就免提。我选择,我快乐。

2.有人反驳过,你不上学,你工作没有上学的好。(姑且认为是劳动待遇和在工作单位中的地位)

我说:那应该是40年前的事了,我也不想举例讲故事说上学的给不上学的打工。

如果想接着反驳我那是个例个案的话,也免提。你调查对象应该是所有学生,那你一个个去统计吧。统计出来就算是不上学比上学工作好的几率是亿分之一,那就是我吧。再说我也不为了工作。

3.有人反驳过,你不上学,你读书你也是走弯路。(姑且认为是认为没受过教育就是土匪流氓)

我说:我读书不为走正路,只为保护我自己。至于我是不是走了弯路,那是我的选择,而且我有自知与自信,我读国学读法律读圣贤读医学读金融读科学,那不可能是弯路。

4.有人反驳过的太多太多。(姑且认为是妒忌)

我说:寺院有尘清风扫,山门无锁白云封。

应该接受应该也应该有自己的应该

你若问,即便我说的是对的得到认同,那也定要分个主次从吧,如果有分歧碰撞的时候应该怎么办。

在我这里,不应该有主次从,也该有碰撞,你看看上面的议论,都是碰撞。

这些碰撞能带来伤害吗?

不能,至少我没看出来。

那要不要碰撞?

要,而且常碰撞。

碰撞后有什么产物吗?

有,至少我是这样认为。

是什么?

智慧。

通过图中对话,我也讲几个观点

1:父母不该给孩子添加压力、添加负担,添加责任。不想多做解释,不理解的麻烦去查一下“承担”和“背负”这两个词的意思吧。

2:在工作中,父母知道分场合,分时机,分人群去说不同的话做不同的事,试问一下谁不会阳奉阴违,谁不会拉帮结派,谁不会笑里藏刀(说的有些过了,其实都会,只是愿不愿意去做,是否屑于去做)。在孩子身上这方面也得注意,别说工作忙没时间看孩子了,真别说了,也别说我在孩子身上下的功夫不少了,是啊,打骂的时候能刺激自己的肾上腺素,有高度的精力集中,新陈代谢成倍的快,事后觉得体累加心累。那五脏六腑加上四肢再加上耳鼻喉眼都在同时作业(也可以说是乘的,五脏六腑乘四肢乘耳鼻喉眼,5*4*4=80,你不如就动个脑子弄个嘴,最多再加上手语描述,多简单多省心,多有效率,多有结果,多有和谐),那样的话你下的功夫能少了么?分时候吧,分状态吧,多些交流,多些沟通,多些碰撞(思维),多些智慧吧好吧。

3:考试,,不想谈了,真不想谈了。就谈一下学生和老师吧。举个例子,古代学生做错事,教书先生直接就打,除非你是太子师行吧,不敢打天子的孩子。现在哪个老师还敢打学生啊,学生有“维权意识”了,拿手机录像,给你传网上。我也想谈一下,《中华人民共和国未成年人保护法》不是<中华人民共和国未成年保护法>,也不是<中华人民共和国未成年人渣保护法>,更不是<中华人民共和国未成年人保护>。首先,国之根本,这个叫“法”,是“保护法”不是“保护”。其次,保护的对象是“未成年人”,不是“未成年”,更不是“未成年人渣”。老师跪着听课,学生站着教书。可怕的不是对牛弹琴,是一群牛对人弹琴。要想学生成为站直着的人,老师就不能跪着教书。教育这项事业,是国之根本,他不应该是项行业,更不应该是一项产业。不应该把教育当成服务来做!如果这样,国之根本就坍塌,不过分说,国难当头。

4:负能量说的有点太多了。我笔下也有千言,胸中实无一策。我是小人,谨此。

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